“Self-reliance is the only road to true freedom, and being one’s own person is it’s ultimate reward.” – Patricia Simpson
Many adults struggle to develop self-reliance because ever since young they were looked after by their parents. As they get older, they never fully realize that they’re in control of their own lives and get to make their own decisions.
These days, the school system fosters an entitlement mindset upon the students while getting them to believe that the government needs to provide for them, or that capitalism is evil and everyone should be treated the same.
The truth of the matter is that to be truly successful in life, you must be willing to accept responsibility for your own life. Your current situation in life is a sum of your habits, thoughts, actions and behaviour.
You may have been dealt an unfair hand in life, but it’s now your responsibility to do everything you can to rescue yourself. Always remember, no one is coming to save you. This is your mantra when it comes to self-reliance.
Here’s how you develop self-reliance…
- Be truthful with yourself
This is the first step. Instead of blaming others (even if it’s their fault), accept full responsibility for your life. Write down everything you’re currently dissatisfied or unhappy with. Be as brutally honest as possible.
- What are your next steps?
Once you know what’s causing you to be unhappy, make a plan to fix the problem. What steps can you take?
In some cases, you may need to learn new skills and get a new job, if you’re unhappy with your salary. Instead of debating about minimum wage, seek to improve your skills so that you bring more value to the marketplace and are well-rewarded.
Instead of blaming the rich or hating capitalism, do whatever you can to not be living from paycheck to paycheck. Your income is within your control.
So is your weight, your relationships, your mental health and so on. You have a lot of control over your life. It’s time to claim personal responsibility rather than expecting others to look after you.
- Do what’s necessary
The path to success is paved with effort, pain, sacrifice and struggle. That’s how it has always been. Be willing to go through the hard yards instead of expecting it to be easier.
Self-reliance is about persevering against all odds to achieve success. That will mean sacrificing many things you want now to achieve what you want most. Delayed gratification will become your default setting.
- Help others when you can
When you help others, you’ll feel better and gain confidence. It’ll improve your sense of self-worth too. This will inspire you to do more for yourself and achieve more.
- Avoid the curse of entitlement
If you shirk responsibility for your own life and expect the system to provide for you, all you’ll get is the bare minimum. You’ll never be able to live up to your full potential.
It’s common to see people on social media railing about the rich or about how life is unfair. Yet, if you looked at their lives, you’d often notice that they’re not living up to their full potential.
By expecting the system to be equitable and look after them, they get the bare minimum and are envious of others who have more. The truth is that you can have more and be more – but only if you develop self-reliance and do more.
Success comes to those who go looking for it. Be self-reliant and know that your life is in your hands and you can mould and shape it into any masterpiece that you want. It won’t be easy, but it will be worth it.
“The masses have no habit of self-reliance or original action.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson
Until Next Time
Dominus Owen Markham