Dale Carnegie’s book, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’ has been selling thousands of copies for decades. That can tell you something – most people want to be likeable.
They enjoy being appreciated and want their peers to think well of them. Political correctness has reached ridiculous proportions these days just because people want to appear kind and understanding to others.
While the current situation is extreme, it still highlights the fact that people want to be liked by others… and if you’re likeable, it will help you in life too.
If you appear genial and trustworthy in an interview, your chances of getting hired will be much higher.
Trying to be popular with the opposite sex?
A likeable personality will be especially helpful here too. Like the old proverb goes, ‘You can catch more flies with honey than with vinegar.’
Below you’ll find a few pointers to take note of if you wish to be more likeable…
- Be a good listener
People love talking about themselves. Let them talk… and listen to them attentively. Just by being a good listener, you’ll be very likeable to most people.
Sometimes people just want to be heard. Allow them to express themselves without feeling a need to offer feedback or solution. Only offer solutions if they ask. You can’t go wrong with that.
- Be positive
Most people like someone who is positive and has a sense of humor. Just by being uplifting and light-hearted, you’ll make others feel comfortable around you. There’s a reason why most women say they love a man with a sense of humor.
Never take yourself too seriously or you’ll end up looking like a joke. To be likeable, one needs to have a ‘thick’ skin.
No matter how positive you are, you can rest assured that some people won’t like you. That’s just the way it is. Don’t let it bother you.
- Don’t debate pointlessly
Spend 30 minutes on social media and you’ll see people debating over politics, pandemics and just about everything else in the news.
Very often, the media does it’s best to be polarizing. By creating division among the people, politicians with an agenda can achieve their goals faster.
Avoid getting lured into these pointless, toxic debates. Rarely does anyone change their mind, and more often than not, you’ll just end up feeling sour and deflated.
Your energy will be drained – and it’ll all be for nothing. Avoid social media drama.
- Smile often
As simple as this sounds, it works. Smile more and people will like you. You’ll feel better too.
- Be approachable
Even if you’re an introvert, being polite and warm will make you approachable. Generally, people who are stern, arrogant or officious, are not well-liked by others.
To be likeable, you must seem welcoming and affable. You’ll want to have boundaries though – especially when you’re at work.
Being too approachable may result in the office gossip constantly finding you to discuss the latest ‘news’. You want to avoid this at all cost.
- Compliment others but don’t overdo it
Compliments should be given sparingly and when it matters. Doing so will make you immensely charming.
However, do not go overboard. Constantly complimenting others will make you seem ingratiating or you might earn the reputation of being a suck up.
In conclusion, there are many benefits that can be accrued if you’re well-liked. Life at work and at home will be easier. You’ll have more friends and things will just seem more fun.
In fact, success in life is easer when you’re amiable. You’ll be able to form mutually-beneficial relationships that will help your career/business to take off. There’re so many ways being likeable will help you directly and indirectly. So pay attention to it and read Dale Carnegie’s book if you need help.
“Shine like the whole universe is yours.” – Rumi